Rewriting my Life. Reclaiming my Voice.

Those of you who have been following me for a while know that my writing career began with a focus on marriage and family. My first blog and book, Making Love in the Microwave, were all about those topics.

In my 20s and 30s, I was a marriage and family blogger, and everything I wrote came from that space. I enjoyed being able to share the ups and downs of family life. I traveled and did book signings in different cities, made media appearances and built a following, but the fulfillment I had from writing in that space wasn’t about any of those things. I just truly enjoyed being able to connect with others, and myself, around the part of my life that was the most important to me. 

But, at 39, I got divorced. I found myself not only faced with all of the challenges that come with a divorce but also the identity crisis that came with being a marriage writer and educator without a marriage. I had built my writing voice around my marriage, and once that was gone, I wasn’t sure where my voice would come from. I found myself lost, not just personally, but as a writer, and my reaction was just to be quiet. It silenced me for a long time. 

Well…not completely. I turned to writing fiction and children’s books. Writing under a pen name was a fun escape that allowed me to hide behind an alias while making extra money. Children’s books let me dive head-first into fantasy land and enjoy all of the fun of book signings and author visits with kids (who are hands-down the best fans an author could ask for). 

I’ve been a writer for as long as I could write, so keeping my hand in it through those books and helping others publish theirs has been what I needed to stay connected to that part of myself. At the same time, I know that by prioritizing those projects, I was avoiding my own voice and the vulnerability that came with it. 

Now, in my mid-40s (!), I’ve begun to embrace my journey post-divorce. I’m currently working on a memoir about rediscovering myself—professionally and personally—after my marriage ended.

Writing this memoir has been both scary and exciting. It’s not a book about the divorce itself but about the process of rewriting my life afterward. I’m learning to reintroduce myself to the world and to reconnect with the parts of me that I had forgotten. It feels good to write in this way again, and I can’t wait to share this book with all of you once it’s ready, and updates along the way. 

Here’s to re-writing our lives together. Stay Tuned.